Written by Jody Cecil, our Licensed Professional Counselo
As we turn the corner into May, we find ourselves in graduation season. Children and adults of all ages are making plans to commemorate the end of a journey, whether it’s the completion of kindergarten or college. After months or years of hard work and dedication, the students have finally reached the culmination of their academic journey. It’s time to celebrate . . . and grieve.
During graduation season, campuses are abuzz with excitement and anticipation. Students don their caps and gowns, ready to walk across the stage and receive their diplomas. Families and friends gather to celebrate the achievements of their loved ones, often traveling hundreds of miles to be part of this special moment. This year, I’m personally celebrating the achievements of both of our adult children as they complete their undergraduate and graduate programs.
Graduation season is also a time of transformation and transition. It brings a sense of accomplishment and joy, but also sadness as students prepare to leave behind the familiar environment of their schools and embark on new adventures. It’s a time for reflecting on the past, cherishing memories, and looking forward to the future with hope and determination.
While reflecting on my own experiences of graduation, I began to hum the words of an old but familiar song, written by Pete Seeger and performed by multiple artists including The Byrds in 1965, “Turn! Turn! Turn!”:
To everything, turn, turn, turn
There is a season, turn, turn, turn
And a time to every purpose under heavenA time to build up, a time to break down
A time to dance, a time to mourn
A time to cast away stones
A time to gather stones together
The song expresses the reality of a changing, or turning, world in which there is a time and place for everything. Ends mark beginnings. We rejoice and we cry. Graduation is about turning, a change in direction, and with that turning comes a mix of emotions. I’ve been privileged to take part in multiple graduation ceremonies, the last being my own master’s degree in counseling over a decade ago. I can remember the anticipation and excitement as I waited my turn to walk across the stage, receive my diploma, shake hands with a dignitary I barely knew and wave to my family and friends. The grief that followed surprised me. I slowly realized that while I had completed a major milestone, I was also losing a close-knit friendships and the familiarity of an environment and routine. While the days of writing papers and taking exams were over, I was about to start over without the community I had enjoyed for so long.
With all of life, we learn that to be human, to be fully alive, means we hold excitement for the future along with the grief for what we are leaving behind. To turn towards the new means saying goodbye. As we celebrate with friends and family this season, may we all hold space for the celebration as well as the sadness. After all, there is a season for everything. Turn. Turn. Turn.
As a licensed professional counselor, Jody sees clients both virtually and in person at the Flourish Center. She uses a variety of modalities to help her clients in reaching their goals including Sensorimotor Psychotherapy, Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR), Trauma-Informed Stabilization Treatment (TIST), Internal Family Systems (IFS), and Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT). Whatever modality is used, Jody values the uniqueness and strengths of each person and invites them to embrace healing wholistically. If you are interested in counseling, you can contact Jody here, Taking Root Counseling.
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