If you missed Part One of my New Year’s Musings: Why I Like “Intentions” Better than “Goals” or “Resolutions”, check that out here.

There are a lot of opinions about how to best write intentions. There are very feminine ways of dreaming, visioning, and creating that leave a lot of space for what’s possible. Then, there are the very masculine ways of setting goals that are SMART (specific, measurable, achievable, relevant, and time bound).

I like a process that’s somewhere in the middle, a more balanced approach. Most of the people I work with are high achievers anyway, so setting masculine goals doesn’t support the need to also have time to rest and play and be creative.

Below is my 5 Step Process for creating intentions that work.

Step one:

Take some time to think about what you want to see come to fruition in the near future in all areas of your life: 

~Home
~Work/career/business
~Health
~Money
~Relationships
~Personal Growth
~Other?

Step Two

Write a few sentences about why each one of the things you want to see come true are important to you. 

Why do you want these things to happen? 

Step three:

Think about how you’re going to feel when you get each one. 

What emotions will achieving this evoke for you? 

Get specific….feel it in your body like it’s already true.

Write down these feelings. 

Step four

Who are you going to need to be to make these things happen? 

What character traits do you already possess that will support your intentions?

Are there any new character traits you’d like to begin embodying to create the life you most want? 

Add these to your list. 

Step five:

Write your full intentions in a sentence that you can read aloud to yourself. 

Read your intentions at least twice daily, once in the morning and once right before bed. 

Consider reading them many times per day, making them into the background on your computer or phone, create graphics of them, write them over and over.

Each time you read your intentions, be sure to feel into the feelings you’ll feel once they come true. 

example:

I’m going to give you a really practical example from one area of my life, so you can get the idea.

Step One: What do I want…
I want to wake up to a clean kitchen every morning.

Step Two: Why do I want it…
When the kitchen is clean, I’m more motivated to cook more complicated meals that include more fresh vegetables.

Step Three: How will I feel when I get it…
More fresh vegetables mean better digestion for a more healthy gut and more energy. I’ll feel light and energized so I can show up as my best self for myself and my clients.

Step Four: Who do I need to be…
I need to be organized in my time management and dedicated to making this a priority.

Step Five: Putting it all together…
I stay organized and dedicated to cleaning my kitchen every evening, so that I’m motivated to cook more vegetables so I can feel light and energized every day.

Do you see how different this feels than me just telling myself that I have to do the dishes every night? Dishes are my LEAST favorite household chore and I tend to walk away from the dirty kitchen after dinner.

When I do that and I wake up to the chore I like the least, it brings down my mood immediately, so I already don’t feel as energized as I could.

Then, because I don’t have time to do them in the morning, the pile is still there at the next dinner time and I’m more likely to grab a quick, less optimal meal so I don’t create more mess…a vicious cycle. 

This is a very practical application of the process. You can use it for anything. Maybe you want more time with your sweetie? Maybe you want to move your body more often? Maybe you want to be more organized at work?

It doesn’t matter. What matters is that you get into the “why” of what you want and the feeling behind it, because what we really care about is how we feel.

Now, when I don’t feel like doing the dishes, I can ask myself, ‘Do you want to have energy tomorrow?’

The answer is almost always a resounding, “Yes!”.

Give this process a try and let me know how it goes.

If your intentions include upleveling your health and wellness, I hope you’ll consider scheduling a session with me for support. And, I’d love to have you join my in my one-time only 8-week program, Health Transformations.

Happy 2024!

Why I Like “Intentions” Better Than “Goals or Resolutions”

It’s that time of year again, the time of resolutions and new goals. You know how it goes. You’re all excited for that big new goal and you get going right away in the new year. And then, in about 3 days, you give up. Some of you might last longer than that, but my guess is that very few new year resolutions actually come all the way true. 

The problem is with how they’re created.

Often, we make new year’s resolutions out of some sort of disappointment in ourselves, not feeling like enough, or from a place of lack.

For example, how many people can you name right now who every year set a weight loss goal? They feel bad that they’ve either gained weight or haven’t yet lost previously gained weight, so THIS IS THEIR YEAR! 

Can you see already how setting a goal from a place of shame, disappointment, or struggle might not be optimal? 

And, I would add that most of the time when people come to see me in my clinic to help them with their new year’s resolution, the goal is often WAY too big to actually be able to attain. 

This is why I like the word intention better.

The dictionary definition of intend is to, “have a course of action as one’s purpose or objective; plan”. So, an intention is, “a thing intended, an aim or plan”. 

Did you know that in medicine intention means, “the healing process of a wound”?

Intention works so much better because often underneath our new year’s resolution is some sort of healing that needs to take place. 

If we look at what we intend to create in our lives and we’re willing to see that some sort of healing might need to take place to get it, doesn’t that seem like a better way to go about it?

After working with thousands of women (and many men, too!), I see how much healing needs to take place when it comes to acceptance of ourselves and particularly of our bodies. 

When we set a goal about weight, go on a popular diet, or restrict our eating without intention (and healing), it’s no wonder we can’t reach that goal. 

What if…

What if you gained weight because of stress, but you’re not doing anything to reduce stress or support your body in it’s ability to manage stress more efficiently? Do you think boot camp exercises or a highly restrictive diet are going to aid your body in this process? You’re very likely going to make things worse or hurt yourself deeply. 

What if you love sugar because you were rewarded with sugar whenever you were a “good girl” or every time you had fun with your family? Of course, you want sugar. Cut yourself some slack. Maybe your intention is to find new ways to reward yourself when you’re celebrating or for having fun, instead of eating sugar. Fulfilling your deep inner need will bring you much more joy than sugar, but sugar works too, so be sweet to you. 

What if you’ve gained weight because of an underlying health issue and you’re refusing to go in and get checked out. Maybe it’s not as complicated as you believe it might be? Maybe there are some simple shifts you can make in your life to overcome this? You won’t know unless you find out. 

What if you gained weight because it’s the natural course for your body? What if your body is beautiful just like it is? The deeper healing here is acceptance of her for who she is.

It always happens this time of year and this year, I want you to hear: 

You are beautiful. If your body is not feeling optimal for whatever reason, come in and see me or see someone else, just get support. 

And, as you set your intentions for 2024, I hope you’ll set ones that work FOR you and not AGAINST you and that you’ll be willing to look for the healing underneath.

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If you’re in Oregon, schedule a consultation with me here.

Read New Year’s Musings Part 2: Writing Your Intentions